We all hope to remain healthy from season to season and year to year. But what would you do if you became sick or developed a health condition that impacted your ability to live your life as you used to or even be able to work for a period of time? Life is full of “curveballs” including divorce, financial struggles and the passing of loved ones. According to author Bruce Feiler, the average adult experiences 30-to-40 curveballs during their lifetime with three or more of them being severe and lasting five years.

Look for Supportive Communities

When life does throws you a curveball, it helps to have a supportive community at home and at work. “Even a small amount of compassion and understanding can make a huge difference to someone facing a major challenge, whether it’s a physical injury or a serious illness,” says Hayley Flott, PDRMA Wellness Consultant. “In those moments, a simple kind word can be a powerful reminder that they’re not alone — even at work.”

If you face a difficult personal challenge, consider sharing it with a trusted colleague. You don’t have to share every detail, but you also don’t need to carry your burden alone — especially if it’s something likely to affect your work. You can explain you might need to take some time off or would like help completing some of the projects you’re currently working on.

Talk to Your Boss

If you need to discuss your situation with your boss — especially if you expect to ask for time off — think through what you want to say before your meeting. As you prepare, keep these tips in mind.

• Clearly identify the issue, facts and potential solutions before the conversation.
• Focus on impact rather than blame by talking about how the situation will affect work or team dynamics.
• Share your ideas for resolving any problems.
• Stay calm, composed and professional, while focusing on a constructive outcome.

You can always find additional support through Ulliance Employee Assistance Program, your human resources department and PATH.

Be Supportive of Others

If you see a colleague struggling, try to help. Ask if you can take tasks off their plate or help cover for them while they’re out. Be mindful of their privacy and try to:

• Listen (without prying) and be supportive when they share whatever details they choose to about the situation.
• Respect their privacy and don’t expect more details than they’re comfortable sharing.
• Keep them connected by letting them know what goes on when they’re absent and offering to summarize events/meetings they can’t attend.

We’re more effective when we work together and take care of each other. It’s important to use your network of resources to help yourself and others handle the curveballs that life throws at us!

PATH Resources

You can find more ways to support yourself and your coworkers using these PATH resources.

• PATH Coaching.
• Healthy Habits > View All> Healthy Relationships >
  •  Be Empathetic.
  •  Listen First.
• Mental Health First Aid — At-work Certification — If you want to learn more about supporting coworkers’ mental health, MHFA has a certification that focuses on work situations.